Fire Extinguisher का नियम

Have been thinking of writing on this for days. But was filled with so much of anger and shame , that I could not put my feelings in words.

The other day, as I finished my tea and got up to prepare dinner, I got a message on my mobile from a student of mine, who was holidaying in Delhi. The message said, “Did you come to know about that five year old girl in Delhi?” I answered,” What happened?” Prompt came the reply,”Its on TV. See.” I switched on the television and checked the news channel.

News was that a ‘five year old girl was raped in Delhi’. I felt repulsive. Further the news said that there were three candles and a 200 ml hair oil’s plastic bottle in her stomach. I wondered as to how did she manage to swallow them. I did not have to think for long as the news said that they were inserted in her vagina by the rapist.

Oh Lord!!!

I felt as if they were being inserted in my vagina. I wondered that the penetration itself must have been so painful for that little baby. To add to it, he actually tried and succeeded in putting all possible things he could lay his hand on, inside that delicate body.

I switched off the TV as I could not take any more. Believe me, even as I am writing this, I have a strong desire of throwing up.

I was filled with anger, shame, repulsive feeling….

Where is the society heading!! The news channels started reporting rape cases on minors or say girls below 6 years of age from all over the country. The other day newspaper reported that a 65 yr old woman was molested in Pune while she was sleeping outside her house. it means …age is no barrier… And of course the regular news of candle march, protests, police’s inefficiency and arrogance, politician’s promising heavy punishments to the guilty were there on all news channels.

I sat thinking when and how will it stop!! What can we do for this cause – something concrete!! Not just protecting the girls before the incident or taking up the case after the incident. What?

Suddenly I remembered the demonstration given in our school on the use of fire extinguisher. After explaining the equipment, the instructor came to practical demonstration. He told that the fire extinguisher generated carbon and that it was to be sprayed at the BASE OF FIRE. He repeated and re-repeated that if it was sprayed ON FIRE, it would only subside the fire temporarily. and soon fire will erupt again. He emphasised that it was important to extinguish fire from the base – the origin, so that it is completely gone.

Don’t you think it holds true in this case also!!

We are wanting to find the guilty and are asking for severe punishments to them. I am also for it. In fact as a rule, I say that the punishment should be so severe that a criminal will not dare to commit the crime. But the ‘fire extinguisher demonstration’ made me think why don’t we strike at the base – the root of all these problems. As mothers and sisters are we not failing in bringing up the boys! I am not accusing any body. But I think we need to tell our boys to respect women. We need to tell them to treat other girls, the way they would want their sisters to be treated by other men in society. Our boys must remember ‘they’ are also somebody’s daughters, sisters and mothers.

Of course I am under no illusion that it will stop the menace. But I think prevention is always better than waiting for a crime and protesting for severe punishment.

Let us name it Fire extinguisher का नियम.

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12 responses to “Fire Extinguisher का नियम

  1. Tanu

    Hello miss, when I read this news in the paper, I was so angry and frustrated that I could not hold back my tears. I really thought for a long time that how has man deteriorated so much morally? All I could figure was that it has become like an achievement – last time it was a 12 year old, now 5, lets see what challenge we conquer next! I can’t even imagine that the man got any satisfaction at the end of it! It might as well have been a doll. First I too thought that it is the attitude with which boys are brought up. While I do concur with you on that, I think that’s not the entire problem. God has given men something that could be used to procreate but instead they use it to establish their strength. All that I can see from this is that this is a deed of a mentally mutilated mind. Things like this happen in the rest of the world too. The US is not a male dominated society, at least not as much as India. Still things like this happen here. It’s just a sick sick mind! It’s like giving a coin to a person. He may invest it or he may smoke it away – he will do what his mind tells him to be correct. So while the attitude has to change and girls don’t have to be looked upon as property, I think public punishment is needed. Such men should not rot in prison. They should be castrated and left to live their incapacitated lives repenting each and every second if their life. And such punishments should be meted out publicly so the next person is scared to attempt this. Not only should this be done to the criminal but also to other factors – like in this case the policemen who tried to bribe. Now, a mental mind might not fear it, but it will deter the genpop from attempting such heinous crimes who do it for the fun! Rape victims should not be treated like an incurable disease, so that family doesn’t try to hide it and tries to report the unfortunate deed.
    Every human has the right to shape their life the way they want.

    • Tanu, I agree with you on public punishment. And while I talk about change in attitude, I also know that it will not eradicate the menace, But it will bring down the crime drastically.
      Earlier, children would not back answer their parents. Today, I see them not only back answering but (the tiny ones) hitting their parents and throwing tantrums in public. The new generation parents (not all) say that it is part of growing up. Of course, both are not comparable problems. What i am trying to tell you is, that the attitude with which we bring up our children influences their action.

  2. Pratibha, I understand your anguish and resentment…it is shocking and repulsive too…With strong sense of indignation we all are fuming…but that’s not enough..as you have said we need to define exemplary punishment. Deterrence is the only key…incorporate stringent laws…No soft option…Pratibha predators are every where;unless we don’t have a very strong will to create a system till then we will lighten our hearts by symbolic gestures of joining candle light assemblies or in some close door debates among friends only…I just shudder at lunacy over the people who indulge in such heinous crime… TIME IS TO ACT SO THAT OUR DAUGHTERS /WOMEN REMAIN SAFE

  3. Tanu

    And I am debating on whether prostitution be made legal… While on one hand it may reduce such cases, on the other it may force more women into this profession against their will.

    • You are right, making prostitution legal may force women into it.
      Have you ever thought, because of the prostitutes at least some of us are safe on the roads. Otherwise those crazy maniacs would catch hold of any women on the road.

      • Tanu Aggarwal

        i think women should walk around with sharp knives… touch me and you are done for life!

  4. Purva Rane

    i went thru the same set of feelings when i heard about the foreign objects…i mean what audacity and cruelty! i had to shut my eyes tight for the images to leave my mind…all the while i kept thinking about my daughter.
    i sometimes feel that even terrorists are better than rapists…
    along with teaching sons to respect we also need to stop taking bullshit from our husbands in front of our children 🙂

  5. Yes, no woman should take non sense from her husband – whether in front of her children or behind their backs.
    And again, we have to change the attitude of our sons and brothers and inculcate respect for women in them.

  6. ektaadwani

    I totally agree with you that this problem should be removed from the roots. Boys should be taught to respect girls from the beginning. Boys should be counselled even in schools and should be given sex education

  7. I agree. really nice post and i leaned a lot from here. keep it up

  8. Pratibha

    Ekta
    Again the responsibility on schools!!
    We have to wake up and take responsibility as mothers, sisters and wives

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